Keep Calm!Get Organised!

Sunday night

9:30 PM
Last maths paper on Monday morning

Me ""Please pack your bag for tomorrow and don't forget geometry compass box."

9:45 PM
There seems to be some struggle in packing stuff.
Me: "What is wrong? Already 15 minutes and still bag not ready.."
"मम्मा  geometry compass box मिळत नाहीये"

Reality check...

• I don't have geometry box for spare like n number of other spare things
• Shops are closed now.
• There is no way next day morning before school we can get it.
• Considering मुखदूर्बळपणा  of my son there is no way he will ask for it to anyone...
• All thoughts rushing in ..making me scream. I almost skip my beat..

but still trying to keeping my calm..

"अरे आता रात्री १० वाजता तुला आठवतंय ?..शोध नीट असेल तिथेच कुठेतरी"

10 PM
I wind up my chores and as there is no noise assumed brat must have got his geometry box and ready to sleep...
but high hopes..
I enter room and see pile of books notebooks and what not on bed and brat peacefully sharpening the pencil gives me a look which says geometry box still missing..

Me about to get panic..but seems those self help books helping out..
I hear that inner voice ...
Stay calm..
Remember principle of your project management..
You delegate your work..you do it yourself..get it done....XYZ..blah blah blah ....in the end if things are not done its YOUR responsibility...
YOUR in capital bold italic whatever highlighted...
Yes its my responsibility (till the time this little man gets serious about studies exam etc etc ) to make sure at least logistics are in place..:(
All rite I ask him to leave the place at once trying my best not to lose temper..
and hurray looks like stars with me today.within next 5 mins see geometry box grinning at me from back of shelf.When I open it another surprise all the required things intact..
Happily we pack bags and calls it a day..

Monday:

Looking at the overflowing cupboards I am thinking how can I help him to get more organised.
May be neat clean organised shelves would give him some encouragement.
Probably time to build that knowledge action gap..;) (u guessed it correct..self help videos..)

#1 Rule Don't organise the clutter.

So lets declutter first .May be try out Merie kondo way.

Getting heap of everything on bed and clearing it would be too adventurous I felt.
There are practical limitations to this you see.
I would be the only one doing this activity in timeframe of maximum 3 to 4 hours before son back from school ,after all maid work done, cooking cleaning catering to door bells breaks.
So lets get realistic.

May be one shelf at a time.That sounds achievable ..(Wow I am so happy to use these words ...realistic ,achievable goals :) fine so अगदीच काही धूळ बसली नाहीये :)

And I dare to take picture of that clutter as well for before how it look scene.

Pencils of different types normal coloured water colours ,crayons , sharpeners ,erasers ..

This was crazy.

I could actually open up a shop.

Unknowingly that guilt feeling creeped up.

Are we as a parent spoiling our kids?

Its not that we buy everything.Few things we buy and few collect over a period of time as return gifts for birthday parties we attend ,gift from near and dear ones and then end result is stationary shop at home.

As a kid our parents probably never bothered to get to this detail.I distinctly remember I had good collection of those fancy eraser one with chocho candy, duck or corn.And I valued it because that was something I liked and wanted to collect.

But when I look at my son he is not interested in these things.

May be DOMS//Camlin/Apsara delux scales we are interested in more from scale fight perspective.

Then why is this clutter of other things?

I dig down further..

We need to blame for D-mart big bazar shops for  visits that we pay for grocery shopping

And then there is this stationary section where kids go and invariable buy pencil boxes as its "their stuff".Grocery etc is mom's stuff 😡
To avoid tantrums in open space we ignore it.(its just one pencil box?)and if you making visit to such shops every month then its one pencil box every month?and our enthusiasm is restricted to buying pencils when it comes to using it our hands /shoulders invariably pain.
No blame game..when it comes to return gift we stick to standard stuff pencil/erases..conveniently saying it would be useful.
And we really don't have time especially if we are working parents to keep stock of stationary.
To avoid end moment rush we stock up things and most of the times leave it to our kids to take care of it.
But do we really teach them how to organise it or teach them difference between necessity and wants and unreasonable wants.

This tiding up activity was surely an eye opener and there was pic of pencil arrange by marie Kondo on same day..wow what a coincidence.
https://www.instagram.com/p/B7PaKpgAO2m/

It was so inspiring.
I actually spend some time in arranging it and it was such a stress buster.
Cupboards look cleaner and bigger
It was easier for kid to manage things now.
There was a place for everything and thankfully lot of free space to move stuff

I did it for clothes as well.
Time well spent and perfect drawers as results.Loved it.

10 Day you Challenge!

I had seen this on my friend's blog.

This was the challenge she had within her blogger friends.

At first I had thought such a childish thing to do..I mean those sarcastic thoughts..what is a secret if you post it on social media and all can know it...(forget about who has time to go through ur damn secrets...love...or for that matter your blog)

(I know that was really rude of me.)

But somehow that image lingered on my mind for longer.

How can any idea be childish.The way you think about it can get childish though and then again isn’t it very relative?

Is it simple?and even if it is simple is it easy to write about these things?

We have to write about self not someone else then it should be easy considering the way self obsessed we get at times..

And in the end this all exercise if for you and not for viewers who accidentally or forcefully land on your page ;)

Secrets..loves..fears..wants..places…foods…books..films…songs…picture in descending order it should be fun..and especially when you feel lost every now and then this kind of thinking may give you chance to know self better or gives you opportunity to spend some time with self and may be in the end to find out what really want to achieve ?

What is purpose of my life..blah blah ..blah..am reading too many self help books looks like :)

Once you reach age , you give damn to challenges given my others if you don’t want to do something and then you really wish to challenge yourself to get out of comfort zone ,laziness ,boredom etc etc

And I could think of some absurd challenges for self.

• Clean fridge challenge
• Clean bed challenge
• Clean kitchen counter challenge
• No mess wardrobe challenge
• Upto date living room challenge...i.e. newspaper on place..shoes on place..tv remote on place....no dust on shelf
• Shed off tire around tummy…(ok this looks like long term goal and not challenge…

I think i should keep working on these challenges along with 10 day blog challenge!

Stay Tuned!

Good News!!

After attending an hour long seminar on dental health at kiddos school I stretched myself ,feeling relieved I got up from my chair to catch up with other mommies.
Before I could speak, fellow mommy exclaimed "Is there a good news?"
Newton's third law of motion immediately came into action that for every action there is equal and opposite reaction.I covered my tummy with my hand and breathed in to tuck my tummy muscles in as you do when you pose for a photo.
Sheepishly I said "Don't tell me I have put on so much as to look pregnant"
"No no I just thought little bulge as you got up from chair"
Meanwhile other mommies joined and that topic ended there.
But was it over really?
Back home standing in front of the mirror,I wondered how could she see my prosperity from my loose kurta? In your early forties with one nine year old keeping you busy full time with his school classes studies and other tantrums how could she think of it also?  May be just that she was pulling my leg or may be its a warning to get back to my exercise routine and that tire around waist is no good.I consoled myself.
But this Good news stuff has caught me badly.
Remembered long back a friend of mine was been offered seat in train looking at her bulged out tummy.
Poor soul was so embarrassed considering the fact that she was not even married that time.
Another friend who was struggling to reduce her post pregnancy tummy ,took a lighter angle on this saying at least for few more days she can enjoy reserved seats in crowded bus.
All of us who have reached above 27 or 28 years of age must have heard this question at least once in their life may be in different context.
When studies are done and girl starts working probably after couple of years someone surely asks her "When is the good news?".
Here it is about getting married.
And for married women, couple of years to the marriage and pops up the question"When is the good news?"
Here its about pregnancy news.

If girl and her family wish to include you in their happiness surely you will get wedding invitation and in second case after few months no matter what you will get to see the good news.Then why are people so impatient to know it or rather why so much interfere in some one else's life.
Marriage and having baby both are very personal and private moments.
May be girl does not want to get married and pursue her carrier or passion or may be she wants to get married but still searching for her Mr.X.
In other case it could be more delicate at times.Imagine woman wanting to have baby and due to some reason couldn't conceive, faces with such question wouldn't that be humiliating?


With changing times shouldn't we change few more things like this and stop asking"When is the good news?"