Be Sure Of What You Want As You May Get It!

#Seven Wants

The difference between want and need is self-control.”--That is straight out of four more shots:)
When I started writing about 7 wants this is the first thing that cross my mind may be because it was the latest that I bing watched on Netflix :)
On serious notes..all the learnings of my inner engineering online course started a replay on my mind automatically.
(a must must course for those who want clarity on this I would say. ..not giving much details as don’t want to dilute gyan with my interpretations :)
Wanting is life and there is no life if there are no wants, so just choose your wants wisely.
This was take away for me and since then making conscious efforts to do so.

At this hour when we all are at unlock mode but scared to venture out , no doubt topmost want for everyone would be

• Get vaccine for Corona

After close to 7 months of  mastering skill of being 'Atmanirbhar' ,we know now we have to live with this for rest of the life.
Hope the doctors/scientists be successful in finding vaccination for this soon and we get back to new normal.

• Balanced Life

Life should be balanced ,isn't it? We should be able to spend time with our loved ones ,enjoy our hobbies may it be gardening cooking reading and off course need to have that financial stability.We all seek growth in many different areas of life and if only we manage to find that balance we can enjoy life to its fullest. 
So having a Balanced Life surely on this list.
This is something we can't buy on Amazon and we need to create it on our own.
So hope to create it soon.

• Ged rid of prosperity signs around belly

Weight loss is always on the list of most of women.

Someone who grew up as a skinny super active individual external looks never really mattered.

Suddenly this relaxed lifestyle and age may be ;) has started to show its sign and one day quietly this weight loss demon appeared and so determined to drive it away along with few kgs as his takeaway.

• Kiddo studying on his own

He is sitting quietly on his study table and completing his studies.

I am there free to do anything I wish...work..cook..sleep..read..watch TV...or simply do nothing :)

May be its just matter of few more years and kiddo will be in his own word.That time I still want to get busy with all these things :)

• Get my driving licence back

"Are madam aap driver rakh lo na ..kyu sikhane ke piche padi ho "--

"Are kyu nahi ..Muzhe sab sikhana he.. Simple to he ..Aur abhi to me sixty bhi nahi hu"--

Nina Gupta's dialogue in Masaba Masaba has triggered it again.

Someone is doing it at sixty ...I can surely do it and I want to and I will learn to drive ..surely I will drive car one day....It will always be on my want to list till I do it.

• Beautiful garden

Extending from balcony garden to external garden where there be plenty of hanging pots loaded with  beautiful flowers and foliage.I can wander guilt free there watering plants admiring its beauty.Roses, lilies, wild flowers, lotus, cactus.....it will have all ...no space constraint no time constraint.....

And then 

“Yes, I'd love to have a garden of my own--spacious, and full of everything that is fragrant and flowering. But if I don't succeed, never mind--I've still got the dream."

― Ruskin Bond, Rain in the Mountains: Notes from the Himalayas

• Contentment and gratitude

and finally whenever its time to say goodby to this beautiful planet I want to leave it with peace and happiness quietly in sleep.Hope he is listening :)

Save Money! Top 6 Life Lessons Absolutely Free!!

In this pandemic situation ,Ganesha festival has managed to bring some cheer and joy to otherwise mundane routine.Last two weeks we all were super busy trying make decorations for Bappa, home clean up and other preparations.Days with him flew like blink of eye.After saying Goodbye to Bappa yesterday, suddenly morning felt so empty today and then I escaped into my balcony garden where peace is guaranteed.

For two weeks these babies were kind of neglected.*But I could feel they were happy to see me back.Or was it other way round ?I was the one who was super delighted to be amongst them and that joy was getting reflected on my babies like a mirror?

Indeed I was surprised to see how many things can happen in two weeks.

* *There is this a baby plant sprouting in my Gulbakshi Pot.

* *I took one abundant pot to plant something new.This pot was may be neglected for months.To my surprise there were these tiny stems of apple mint still hanging there.They must have survived for months without proper watering and care.I replanted them in another mint pot.

* * * There was a new Green leaf dancing to its own tunes.This whitish green looked so different from other greenies.While propagating I must have grouped leaves from different plants.

* * * * Beatle leaf tree has got so many new leaves at the base with few new leaves from tip as well.This is the same plant which was struggling so much for new leaves.

* * * * * Water in my Bambu leaves has all dried up.I just pulled them up to check on its roots and all roots have taken shape of the plastic container.

* * * * * Capsules of foxtail plant were showing up.These are the capsules plant use as water backup.

* * * * * * There were so many small plants sprouting along with money plant.It was such a delight to watch those little ones swinging back and forth with morning breeze.

Some leaves pruning ,soil digging ,watering and there I am refreshed and ready to face day ahead.

Are you wondering where are the life lessons ?

They are surely there.You can get it all in your comfort zone in your balcony garden.

Nature is giving it at no cost.Free for all of us.We just have to keep our eyes and mind open and be ready to receive it.

* Be forgiving.

* * Wait for right opportunity Hang on there.

* * * Dare to be different

* * * * When you don't see opportunity in one direction change the direction.There is always a growth even if you are at one place.Growth can take different directions.

* * * * * Adapt to your surroundings.

* * * * * *Be ready with with your backup plan.In case Plan A does not work make sure you have Plan B ready.

Now try to match up these * marks with those alongside plants and let me know do you see the hidden life lessons?

How to make Refreshing Aam Panne!

Aam Panne or "Kairiche Panhe" is a traditional maharashtrian drink.

Every family usually have its own version of this recipe.

If you have not tried it you must give it a shot this summer.

It is super easy to make and super refreshing and healthy too.

Ingredients

• 2 medium size raw mangoes (Kairi) which approximately makes 1 bowl of pulp

• 1 bowl sugar

• 1 tsp cardamom powder

• 1 tsp cumin powder

• 1 tsp black salt

Steps

• Rinse raw mangoes well.

• Remove small section near the top.

• Put in a bowl, pressure cook with some water added. After 4 whistles turn off the gas.
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• Scrap the pulp of these boiled mangoes.
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• Add sugar, elaichi powder, cumin power and salt to this pulp.

• (1 cup of sugar for 1 cup of pulp .You can adjust sugar proportion as per your taste but Aam Panna real taste is slightly sour. You can also replace sugar with jaggery in equal amount.)

• Blend it in a mixture and your Kairi Panhe mix is ready. Refrigerate for some time.

• Add 3 table spoon of this mixture in glass of cold water.

• Stir it well and its ready to serve.

Do try it out and enjoy the summer!

Are you Happy?

"Mumma are you happy?"
I overheard innocent voice while crossing the road and could not help turning back.
Little one was holding her mumma's hand and crossing the road too.
She was not looking at me so couldn't catch her expressions.
Sayomi was in same class as Aryan.So knew her mother.There was smile on her mother's face.Was it for me or for in reply to Sayomi's question? I was not sure.I smiled too.
But was mumma happy?
Smile on her face couldn't revealed the answer.
Sayomi was too curious to know.She kept repeating "Mumma tell na."
We crossed the road. Sayomi got into car from one side.Her mumma took driver's seat and then vanished in few seconds.
I was lucky enough to get auto.
But "Mumma are you happy?" the unanswered question kept buzzing in my mind.
How much marks she must have got?
For third grader ,marks that he/she scored .. does that really matter.
Good marks bad marks aren't these relative terms.Good marks for some one could be just good enough for someone else.
To avoid these marks tantrum, they introduce grade system.But then grades are again derived from marks or mark range.May be comparisons now have shifted from single marks to range of marks..Some breather for kids.whether they get 45 or 50 A+ would show up and they won't get scolding or comparisons with friends.
For kids may be more than marks what matters is making parents happy.
Smart kids know once parents are happy they can expect gifts and many more things which they want and if they are not happy then some scoldings, some harsh words, may be beating, may be restriction on play time ,screen time ,no gifts and this list can get really long.Parents too are getting creative these days.

"I hope she scored enough marks to make her mother happy."I tried to conclude my thoughts as I got off the auto.

As I enter home, the question banged on me.
मम्मा कसे मार्क्स मिळालेत मला ?
You see yourself .Keeping the excitement as is ,I handed over the report card.
His eyes quickly scanned report card and he exclaimed " चांगले grades आहेत ना मला "
Me ; "Off course marks are good.You studied so hard entire year so you have scored really well"
And then comes the googly
Mumma are you happy?
Not surprised this time I responded almost promptly "Yes very much but sweetheart these are your marks so are you happy with it?"

Thinking for a while he replied yeh I am happy but in Marathi I could have done better Mumma.

Trust me this thoughtful reply made me happier than before.

Eight Fears

Its Day 1 of #21Day lockdown
First time something like this happening and its scary.
More you follow whatz app and social media more nervous and fearful you get.
So probably social distancing should include social media distancing as well
When people all over the world are fearing Corona virus , staying home to fight it, this is right time to sit back and introspect and identify fears that we have gathered over time.

This one was more difficult than I thought it would be.
When I can list 10 secrets , 9 loves ,fears are just 8 so it must be easier.
But it was not so and I realised this challenge is going to get tougher as I reach to number one.

As we get older some fears that we had as kids just vanish and we unknowingly develop new ones which make us wonder if innocence of childhood makes us bolder.
Over weekends watching fear factor makes me ponder how many faces fear can have. Fear of cars, fear of speed, fear of water, fear of reptiles, animals, cockroaches ,height ,electric shocks...and you can really get creative over here.

Fear when it reaches to a point where just thinking about it makes you break down turns into phobia and when I search about phobia, spellings of those names gave me fear.There are categories and subcategories and exhaustive lists which are listed alphabetically.
After reading all that I gave myself pat on the back for not having any of such phobias.
Fear of cockroaches/lizards which would make my younger self scream vanished gradually when I moved into my own home and started driving away smallest cockroach even on outside of balcony wall.Its my home how dare you enter...that kind of approach you see :).

As a kid remember had fear of water and could never learn to swim.Now when I look at it feels if situation demands I may actually swim (only if mass gathered over the years allows me to do so ;)

fear of being left out...no,
fear of exams...no
fear of not getting god marks in exams...no,
fear of being alone at home..no
fear of height..no
Stage fear...no
fear of parents...no
what else
none of these fears as a child I had..
wow I must have been a brave kid...
and as after all these years am I still same fearless person?

May be time to deep dive further and get those deeply rooted fears out to surface and face it.
First thing to fight fear is to accept it.
To the outside world we pretend we are strong person but we all fear few things and when I thought about it I could get my fear points and strength as well to fight them back.

May be this would be short and just to the point.
Our own fears are the real and genuine one and we really can not elaborate them and sit back and enjoy as horror movie.

Fear of losing dear ones
Accidents, heart attack, hospital visits all this is not for my family and it happens with others ,not with me. By gods grace I was able to live with this for many years.But life has it ups and down and at times it shows its ugly face.But the fear of losing dear ones is hard to face.

Fear of Ambulance siren
On busy street of Mumbai when you travel and suddenly you hear ambulance siren ,senses go numb for a moment.Fingers get crossed praying for speedy recovery of unknown person there inside.
Sitting next to sick person in an ambulance is something no one should experience

Fear of phone calls from known people at unexpected time
Phone bell rings, you see the known number and you see the time.
Why he/she calling at this point in time is the first thought that cross my mind.
सहजच केला होता You hear that आणि जीव भांड्यात पडतो
but for those few seconds fear that you experience I just wish not to face it again ever.

Fear of rejection

What if someone doesn't like the way I talk..the way I walk...the way I dress...the way I look...the way I cook....
What if...
All these question arise from fear of rejection.Even thought its extremely difficult to admit now,some how unknowingly this fear had creeped in me.Once you accept it then only you can get rid of it if you wish to.
It had taken good amount of time to get rid of it.So just be aware not to let this take over you.
Whatever you are ,who ever you are..
you are at your best and no one but only you have to accept yourself the way you are and then done.Fear of rejection can not touch you.

Fear of how future of our kids be
This one you get as a reward of motherhood I suppose.
Are we raising our kids right ?Are we giving them proper education and values which will make them better human being. Don't we all live with this constant fear.Every generation has to face its own set of challenges.What challenges our kids with have to face in future are we making them strong enough to handle them.Are we giving them strong emotional base and values which will help them to sail through the tough times.

Fear of being dependant
जो दुसऱ्यावरी विसंबला त्याचा कार्यभाग संपला
long back in school times have studied this proverb.
But as you grow old you know the real meaning of it.Whether it is a Financial dependance or emotional dependance ,physical dependance even a thought of it is like a nightmare.
Practice of minimalism, mindfulness...am trying to find different ways to deal with it.

Fear of being not good enough
In the world that cheers only for the best where the person who is good stands..
Even if he is good it becomes just good enough.Delivering high performance all the time in all area of life practically is it possible also I wonder...but we all run this race constantly to be the best fearing we are not good enough.

Fear of untimely exit
Live in the present moment that is all what you have.
Easy to be said than done.Uncertainty of life is what fears the most when we see untimely exits for near and dear ones.It forces us to look at life from right perspective.If no one can guarantee the very next moment then the day which we live make most of it and live as if its last day of your life.

Farewell

Day १

मम्मा तुला माहितेय स्पृहाच्या क्लास मध्ये ना आज पावभाजी दिली 

          Really? wow ! असेल काही त्यांची क्लास अक्टिव्हिटी
          तुम्ही नव्हती का sprout भेळ बनवली होती 

 हा पण पावभाजी ?

He was not convinced with my answer 

Die hard fan of Pavbhaji can smell pavbhaji from any corner in his vicinity.

Day २

अरे ममा तुला माहितेय का ..काल ना farewell Party होती ४th ची Thats why school ने पावभाजी दिलेली 

         Wow so next yearतुम्हाला पण मिळणार तर पावभाजी स्कूल कडून  

Looks like we had this conversation yesterday

It’s already a year gone and today is his farewell party and Pav-bhaji time 

A week back he gushed in and exclaimed 

"Mumma finally day has arrived

No tiffin on Friday for long break .....पावभाजी देणार आम्हाला "

Wait was over and he was beaming :)

Today morning hour was smooth.

Additional update was along with Pav-bhaji they were supposed to get icecream as well and marathi free period as some dance activity that time.

Excitement has built up to core.

4 years back ...same farewell party from pre- primary to primary..

Graduation day!

We get his photo with convocation gown on the day of results.

Memories...

What will he get today I wondered.

Mind swings back and forth.

6 more years there will be another farewell.

Saying good bye to school

May be he will deck up in his dad's blazer or his own...

looking forward for another bright start....

gathering memories of another farewell and Pav-bhaji and Icecream

#TBT #Throw Back Thursday

With 2020 , Digital declutter is on and here I found this.



Its Thursday as well so it qualifies for Throwback ;)

Rewind >

"This boy just doesn't study" I was complaining to friend of mine.
"He is an engineer's son so will study only in Prep leave ;)"He replied.
"Let him grow up and take admission to Engineering course and then he will qualify for it"
I am not ready to budge and somehow 15 days before exam starts we start our study.

When it comes to English literature(I need to admit , I was shXX scared of this word Literature when I heard it first in Std 1st now till std 4th I have somehow digested it.)we do lessons first as it has lot many ques answers...long ..short.. RTC....meanings ..who said to whom etc etc.(If you don't understand these words consider yourself lucky and continue reading :)

"Poems are simple.Just one Page and answers are also mostly one liners."Junior has valid point.

So me (yes you read it right me because he might have read/written it at least once in school) keep poems for last moment i.e day before exam.
So a day prior to exam,I tell little one to learn his question answers till the time I wind up my work.
Happily he agrees.
Within 10 minutes he is ready with his answers.
Alright , I open up note book and with first question my eyes were googly.
But he was ready with his answer within seconds.

"Earthly ills"

I was amazed at the रट्टा  capacity of my little one.

"each one is trying to overdo the other person" what do you mean by it?
"Explain me Earthly ills the way you understand"
I shoot my questions

No answers..

तू हे सगळं काय विचारते ?
This is not in textbook.

No This is not done.
I open up text book and look for poem.

Beautiful poem by Paul Dunbar indeed.
1872 to 1906

Its 2020 now.

It aptly applies even after more than 100 years!

Junior not happy and complains. This is not fare Mumma.I answered correctly first question in book that you asked.
He is in hurry to finish up last few questions.But knowing his mother he decides to listen and cooperate.
We quickly read poem with some detailing and there you go.

Mumma now I know
"Earthly ills means need to study for exams and not getting to play and study as we wish during exams.."

I close the book and he is off to play :)

Nine Loves

With Valentines Day at the corner, this would be the appropriate blog post.
So lets get started....

मम्मा ,तुला सगळ्यात जास्त कोण आवडतं?
Of course you sweetheart 😍

We have this conversation happening daily at my home and yes no exaggeration here..Its DAILY.

Same question,  or may be different version like
मम्मा तुला सगळ्यात जास्त मीच आवडतो ना? asked with same intensity every day.
My answer is also same but depending on my mental state it length varies like

• you
• aryan
• of course you sweet heart
• what do you think who would that be?
• He is my boy
• Boy whose name starts from A
• Very sweet handsome intelligent boy. and on and on and on

Once I asked little one..you know my answer right and you know that mumma loves you the most still why you asked this daily?

हा एकदा तू रागावली होतीस ना तेव्हा तू daddy बोलली होतीस ... so there you go.:)

As he grows he would understand the dimensions of love.

Love of your parents, grandparents, husband ,wife, friends, cousins, teachers,  neighbour, nephew ,niece 

Love  in different forms and no form can replace other.We have to treasure all.

So this probably gets my first answer love for people in my life.

This has given me immense strength ,happiness.

To love and to be loved is greatest of blessing that we can get I feel.

That small elegant stylish animal when gracefully moves around ,it is bound to steal glances.

I just love that वाघाची मावशी . when she purrs and rubs her delicate body against your leg you have to stop and cuddle her.Few stroke against her neck soft touch of her fur...ahh you have to experience that feeling ,words won't do a justice. Respecting others views on cleanliness and hygiene you have to bar her outside gate and can't feed her but furry one wont mind it and loves you back mewing and siting outside the gate and waiting for you.What else you want in life 😇😇

Walk on the seashore ,walk on jogging track ,walk in society premises ,walk alone, walk with buddy ,walk day ,walk night..I just love to walk.

Each type has its own benefits and trust me there are no cons.

Apart from keeping you off that +2Kg it gives amazing clarity to your thoughts.

Walking on seashore and sensing soft silky touch of sand on bare foot

Walking on jogging track where you walk with another 50 people which creates vibes of well being as a society

Walking in society complex waving at familiar faces, stopping in between for quick chat, overlooking kids play

Walking with buddy discussing future plans or daily chores

Walking all alone enjoying your own company.

This love for walking surely going to develop deep bonding I can sense it now.

Love for Plants surely gets place here.This is budding love and it has started showing it results with greener healthier plants and beautiful peaceful balcony.Garden accessories , plant fertilisers gets added to your shopping list, you can't sip tea unless you water your plant babies in the morning, you plan vacations and first thought that bothers you is who will adopt your plants during that time, your favourite pass time is digging soil in plant pots and watching new leaves and branches ,to be bought list of plants for next six months is already ready and you keep flaunting your plants on fb, insta and whatz app status then trust me you are madly in love with plants and now there is no looking back 😀

All love vacations and so do I.Those few days when we are free from daily chores, spend time with our loved ones, away from home, close to nature and make memories which lasts for life time.

It all starts from planning for the vacation.finalising the place, those silly arguments to come to final destination conclusion, bookings ,reservations and then surrendering to google baba to come up with List of things to do or places to visit ,reading other tourist reviews. You start to live your vacation much before the actual vacation begins.And post vacation you continue to live it with your memories.

and this vacation process repeats every years with experiences and memories to cherish.

Mumbai rains is definitely something to fall in love with if you are stay at home person.
Just relax in your rocking chair in balcony garden, close your eyes and listen to beautiful rhythm of rain if you don't fall in love with it, you get a free coffee date with me in my balcony garden during rains:)

Collect memories and not things and then you will love your memories.They give me energy whenever I need and it is the that thing which gets multiplied over period of time.It makes you smile at times while at times it warns you.Memories guide you in your life journey.And then someday you realise this memories thing which you believe in all these years it is a concept.
Holloa !! that David Goggins cookie jar.:)

Ability to dream is one of the best gifts that we can give ourselves.Things which we don't have or we wish to have or places where we wish to go, in our dreams we can already go there.We are the masters of our dreams and we get to see what we want to .Visualisation some call it I keep it simple just dreams and indeed I love to dream and believe dreams do come true.

Last but not the least Love for Self.

You have to love yourself truly and unconditionally then only you can give that back to others.

I am thankful to those self help book for this wonderful thought.It sounds selfish first but isn't it equally true.

Love for self is taking care of your body and mind.Having healthy food, understanding your needs , proper exercise, taking out time for things that you really wish to do and passionate about and not feeling guilty about it.
As we grow up with growing responsibilities we start putting everyone else above us and then start complaining we don't get time for self.So striking that right balance to enjoy a full filling life is key.

Ten Secrets!

Being typical Virgo I am surely not going to reveal my secrets :)
Once you share them they no longer be secrets .
But there are surely few things which not many would know.Let me try to write about them.

1.Selective Perfectionist 

Yes that is what I am when it comes to folding clothes.It has to be folded in certain manner and no deviation in that.

I am ok if clothes are lying around (selective perfectionist)but if they are going in cupboard they have to be folded in right manner.

This leads to real messy home at time.I am trying to get rid of selectiveness and achieve that true perfectionist state and one day will surely succeed.

2.Minimalism

Lately smitten by bug of minimalism.I know if people who know me get to hear this they will have good laugh.

"सौ चुहे खाके बिल्ली चली हज " That is the remark will get. But my answer is finally at least on the way of Huj 

From extreme maximalist( I know this is not the exact word but it conveys the meaning exactly)to minimalist this journey is not simple and again long way to go but its mindset change and am all in.

3.Task master

 I guess decade plus years in corporate world must have dragged me in the trap of making to do list and I must agree am so badly caught.Long term goals ,short term goals, things to be achieved in a year ,in six months, in month ,in 15 days, in week ,in a day ,in next one hour..things getting so mechanical.and funny.

You make list per day , tasks getting done undone pilling up on new to-do-list and one day you end up making task to get rid of al to-do-list.

4.Plant Parent

This is newly found love.Been close to three years I am in love with these greenies.Those who know me for them its not a secret.I keep flaunting my greenies on whatz up statuses at times on fb Walls.

Secret is I keep searching youtube videos for home balconies and garden and keep experimenting it.

So each plant in the balcony that I have has a story with it.

आणि पु ल देशपांडे यांच्या पाळीव प्राणी गोष्टीतल्या माणसांसारखी माझी गत नाही ना होणार  I have this secret fear.

5.Can laugh uncontrollably at smallest things like people giving wrong direction ,someone having stupid fall unexpectedly ( i know its mean but ),cooking disasters....list goes on

My near and dear ones do get embarased at time due to this and super entertained remembering entire scenario later ...

6.Appreciate small things in life

Diwali lighting ...blooming bud ..unexpected rain ...playing UNO ...watching favourite movie ...spending early morning in garden...walk on seashore, moon tracing at seashore ..cooking for family ...reading book ...playing with cat... feeding crows and catching up with old friends...life is so simple why do we have to complicate it?

7.Food lover

Panipuri , Sevpuri , Ragada puri all those chat items, vadapav ,pavbhaji bhaji, ice creams ,shakes, chochlates and off course Puranpoli Gulpoli Modak ,mexican chinese yummm...

With 40 plus tag after each hogging session you say +2 kg and need to stop but then but

We love to eat ,love to cook ..खाओ और खिलाओ  and then keep walking 5 km 6 km a day and cross your fingers and dare to weigh

8.Photo lover

माकडाच्या हातात कोलीत अँड माणसाच्या हातात smartphone अशी अवस्था झाली आहे उठ सुठ फोटो काढायचे जणू व्यसन लागले आहे ani I am also one of them :(

बार फोटो काढायचे आणी पुढे काय  it just adds to digital clutter पाहिजे त्या वेळेला एक फोटो मिळणे मुश्किल 

Controlling this urge to click now and then.Trying to be more organised for photos.

Photos create good memories and for that one moment everything looks so perfect and fine.

9.Kids Game

Brainvita rubixcube things which we played as kids good to see they are still around.and I must admit i am still hooked on to it.To be honest don't recollect cracking it much but do recollect uncle who used to flaunt his skills with one marble on the diskHe never shared the trick with us.

Probably this has changed over time.We have classes for kids to teach rubixcubeand we do have youtube guru.There are patterns to be followed and algorithms to be learnt and you are done,But frankly speaking once you decode it there is no fun. Blessed were childhood days when we used to try and try and sometimes when used to succeed used to think of self as geniusThat was the way to keep brain busy. 

So glad shortcuts were not there when we were growing up.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oRmkSOZTmuE

This is just one of many tricks in case you want to give it a try :)

Last but not least

10.Super Optimistic

Strong believer of whatever happens ,happens for the best and his plans are always bigger and better than what we plan .

So have faith and enjoy life to fullest .After all you get to live only once.

Keep Calm!Get Organised!

Sunday night

9:30 PM
Last maths paper on Monday morning

Me ""Please pack your bag for tomorrow and don't forget geometry compass box."

9:45 PM
There seems to be some struggle in packing stuff.
Me: "What is wrong? Already 15 minutes and still bag not ready.."
"मम्मा  geometry compass box मिळत नाहीये"

Reality check...

• I don't have geometry box for spare like n number of other spare things
• Shops are closed now.
• There is no way next day morning before school we can get it.
• Considering मुखदूर्बळपणा  of my son there is no way he will ask for it to anyone...
• All thoughts rushing in ..making me scream. I almost skip my beat..

but still trying to keeping my calm..

"अरे आता रात्री १० वाजता तुला आठवतंय ?..शोध नीट असेल तिथेच कुठेतरी"

10 PM
I wind up my chores and as there is no noise assumed brat must have got his geometry box and ready to sleep...
but high hopes..
I enter room and see pile of books notebooks and what not on bed and brat peacefully sharpening the pencil gives me a look which says geometry box still missing..

Me about to get panic..but seems those self help books helping out..
I hear that inner voice ...
Stay calm..
Remember principle of your project management..
You delegate your work..you do it yourself..get it done....XYZ..blah blah blah ....in the end if things are not done its YOUR responsibility...
YOUR in capital bold italic whatever highlighted...
Yes its my responsibility (till the time this little man gets serious about studies exam etc etc ) to make sure at least logistics are in place..:(
All rite I ask him to leave the place at once trying my best not to lose temper..
and hurray looks like stars with me today.within next 5 mins see geometry box grinning at me from back of shelf.When I open it another surprise all the required things intact..
Happily we pack bags and calls it a day..

Monday:

Looking at the overflowing cupboards I am thinking how can I help him to get more organised.
May be neat clean organised shelves would give him some encouragement.
Probably time to build that knowledge action gap..;) (u guessed it correct..self help videos..)

#1 Rule Don't organise the clutter.

So lets declutter first .May be try out Merie kondo way.

Getting heap of everything on bed and clearing it would be too adventurous I felt.
There are practical limitations to this you see.
I would be the only one doing this activity in timeframe of maximum 3 to 4 hours before son back from school ,after all maid work done, cooking cleaning catering to door bells breaks.
So lets get realistic.

May be one shelf at a time.That sounds achievable ..(Wow I am so happy to use these words ...realistic ,achievable goals :) fine so अगदीच काही धूळ बसली नाहीये :)

And I dare to take picture of that clutter as well for before how it look scene.

Pencils of different types normal coloured water colours ,crayons , sharpeners ,erasers ..

This was crazy.

I could actually open up a shop.

Unknowingly that guilt feeling creeped up.

Are we as a parent spoiling our kids?

Its not that we buy everything.Few things we buy and few collect over a period of time as return gifts for birthday parties we attend ,gift from near and dear ones and then end result is stationary shop at home.

As a kid our parents probably never bothered to get to this detail.I distinctly remember I had good collection of those fancy eraser one with chocho candy, duck or corn.And I valued it because that was something I liked and wanted to collect.

But when I look at my son he is not interested in these things.

May be DOMS//Camlin/Apsara delux scales we are interested in more from scale fight perspective.

Then why is this clutter of other things?

I dig down further..

We need to blame for D-mart big bazar shops for  visits that we pay for grocery shopping

And then there is this stationary section where kids go and invariable buy pencil boxes as its "their stuff".Grocery etc is mom's stuff 😡
To avoid tantrums in open space we ignore it.(its just one pencil box?)and if you making visit to such shops every month then its one pencil box every month?and our enthusiasm is restricted to buying pencils when it comes to using it our hands /shoulders invariably pain.
No blame game..when it comes to return gift we stick to standard stuff pencil/erases..conveniently saying it would be useful.
And we really don't have time especially if we are working parents to keep stock of stationary.
To avoid end moment rush we stock up things and most of the times leave it to our kids to take care of it.
But do we really teach them how to organise it or teach them difference between necessity and wants and unreasonable wants.

This tiding up activity was surely an eye opener and there was pic of pencil arrange by marie Kondo on same day..wow what a coincidence.
https://www.instagram.com/p/B7PaKpgAO2m/

It was so inspiring.
I actually spend some time in arranging it and it was such a stress buster.
Cupboards look cleaner and bigger
It was easier for kid to manage things now.
There was a place for everything and thankfully lot of free space to move stuff

I did it for clothes as well.
Time well spent and perfect drawers as results.Loved it.